Finding a balance

It is so strange when you get married because a huge change happens. When you are dating it is perfectly normal to spend all your time with them and you do because it is so new and you have so much you want to learn about the new person. Once you are engaged you are together every second planning and dreaming of the future. But then you get married..... It is amazing and great but eventually reality steps in. And you realize you have to do other things besides spend time together. Eventually there is school or work or in some cases Both!!!

For us girls I think it is harder because we have given up a ton to devote every waking moment to you. Not that that is a bad thing it is just what we do. But when reality sets in we realize we need hobbys, girlfriends, or something of our own. Because as amazing as doteing on you is we need to do somethng for us too.

Guys seem to adjust to this easier. I think this is mostly because they are usually the providers. So they know they have to go off and work so that they can provide for their wives and family. So when they are off and about they are able to take their them time. But when we(the wives) are mostly at home we are doing things for them even when they arent here!

Lately I have noticed that after nine months of marriage I am still not doing something for me! I love doing things for my hubby but when I run out of things to do I feel kind of lost. Because I have given up most things that don't revolve around my new marriage. So I keep trying to start new hobbies or just something to do for me. But most the time I quicky lose interest. I am not sure if its because I feel like I should be doing more around the apartment or if its because I am easily distracted. Probably a combination of both.

But to the wives, engaged girls, and girls planning for the future: Find something for you and don't let go of it. Don't let it come between you two but Find a balance. Remember you need something for yourself to make you happy. And lets face it if we arent happy the hubby isnt happy :)

To the husbands, engaged men, and guys planning for the future: When we are having a hard time with this try to be understanding. It doesnt seem to be as easy for us. Encourage us to find something for ourself and to keep trying until we find something we love doing.