Sunday, October 31, 2010


So up until yesterday I haven't gone back to the temple since my endowment day and my wedding day. Even though when my husband and I were sealed in the Rexburg temple the sealer told us to come back often! When our new bishop interviewed us he again told us we needed to go to the temple! But I was very apprehensive about going back. New experiences are super hard and learning new things can be hard so I was avoiding going back!
Well the other day my husband and I actually got in a fight. We never really fight we have little arguments but thats about it. As we were fixing our problem that caused the fight I had a feeling that shouted Go to the temple! I looked and Jonny and just said we should go to the temple! He asked where that came from. I told him I was told and that was that. But again I was very nervous. So I called my Mom. Who of course said she would come with us saturday morning before I had to go to work!
After I got out of the temple Everything was Better. A ton of stress was gone for both of us. We grew closer together instantly!
So to all the newlyweds and engaged couples: Go to the temple often! It is something new I know but it is so much easier with everytime you go! You grow closer together and bond so much everytime! It is the best place to be!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Being involved in Every Decision

So the other night I discovered I have been saying one thing to mpy husband but not doing it myself! We had a problem when we were engaged and it has flowed into our newlywed life. my husband isn't use to involving someone with his decisions and has had a a problem discussing things with me. I have wanted to be involved with every thing have been a slight nag trying to get him to involve me.
Than I realized the one thing that I should be involved with most I have left up to him. MONEY! Its a big thing and a lot of people have marriage problems because of it! I have been leaving it in his hands. Not even paying attention to our bank account. But Jonny has another problem he likes to spend money thinking it makes me happy. But neither of us have been keeping a good enough track of how much money we have in comparision to the amount we need for bills. So when bills come up we are usually a lil short!
So I realized if I want to be involved in every decision I have to actually be involved! Crazy thought I know. So instead of neither of us having a clue I came up with an idea, put it in place, and got my husband involved. SO much stress has been released!!
So to all the engaged couples and newlyweds: BE INVOLVED! Make every decision together. That way there is no mix up in communication and it is a combined effort. You should do everything together!!!

Wednesday, October 20, 2010


Life has been totally crazy lately! I got a new job and my husband quit his. So are rolls have switched quite a bit. It's kind of hard because I still want to do all the things I use to do but at the same time I just can't juggle completely taking care of the house and working full time. So I am trying to learn to let go and let my husband do the things he has time for and vice versa.

The worse part is my body doesn't deal well with stress so now I am sick on top of everything. Being sick with a new job is horrible. Life is just crazy. I guess I need to find a way to relieve my stress without putting it all on my husband! Finding new balance in even small things when you are a newlywed isn't that easy. After all everything has changed. In a good way of course. Its just different.

So to all the newlyweds and engaged couples: Adjusting will be hard at times. It doesnt happen in days or weeks or even months. But it will happen eventually. Just slowly and over time. Just relax and let the adjustments come on their own!

Thursday, October 07, 2010

How dreams change over time...

Today I have been thinking about how much our dreams change as we get older and as our circumstances change. When I was little I never really had one thing I wanted to be. It changed day by day and also by who I was talking too. Secretly I wanted to be a model. When I was 16 one of my friends Sydney mentioned to me that I should try out for America's Next Top Model. She had no idea that that was my dream. I loved that show. Well I realized that a models life isn't really the lifestyle I wanted.

So my dreams changed again.... I wanted to go to college and eventually work behind a desk or in an office of some sort I know huge change. and eventually after I graduate have a family. Well later on I realized I didn't really want to be in college. Everyone else wanted me to be in college! But not wanting to disappoint anyone I stuck with it.

About 7 months ago I met the man of my dreams. 2 months ago we were married. And yet again my plans changed..... Well before we were married I had this awesome modeling opportunity but the weekend after my reception we were suppose to go to Seattle. I realized the financial strain this would put on us. We were already sacrificing things for MY dream. Instead of thinking about OUR DREAM. Well before we went I decided I didn't want to go that path or follow that dream.

My dream now is too become the best wife I possibly can and have a family of my own. After all family is the most important thing in the world. I think this is what I have always wanted I was just too afraid of letting everyone else down. Than I realized if I lived for everyone else who would be living for me?
So to all the fellow newlyweds and engaged couples: Really take time to think and discover what YOUR DREAMS for YOU are. Forget what others dreams for you are. Live for you and your future family! Everyone else won't be as upset as you think they will. And eventually they WILL get over it!

Wednesday, October 06, 2010

"All is well. Our family has come home."

So last night after months of reading I finally finished reading the Work and the Glory. For those that havent read it you definitely need too!!! Besides the whole LDS theme the family theme in it is absolutely incredible! The Steed family is a great example to us today! The ending of the book brought me to tears. "All is well. Our family has come home."
The family doesn't ever put anything above their family. Family is always first. I am so glad that I have a mother that loves and supports me. Know that I am married I have been given a husband that puts me above everything. It gets complicated because we are both trying to put the other one first. :) But that is the best complication ever!!!
I think this is one of the biggest problems the world has these days. Family is not at the top of the list for most people. Actually its not even near the top of the list for most people! I just hope that when Jonny and I do extend our family that we will be close like the Steed family. That family will be at the top of our list.
So to all the newlyweds and engaged people:Remember that family is the most important thing ever! Always put your spouse before everything else! Even if your parents are against it. Your husband or wife is the top priority. Love them with all your heart and they will love you in return! <3

Saturday, October 02, 2010

Try for each other!!

So I have discovered that my husbands shorts are just about the most comfortable thing ever!!! So I have been pretty much in them constantly! Than I noticed that I havent really been trying hard enough for my husband.....
When we had just gotten married I was worried about us becoming comfortable around each other. I was also trying to be that tv mom I have mentioned before. So I relaxed more and starting being lazy...
As you can tell by my previous blogs I have a problem finding the happy medium in things! So I have to figure out how to be relaxed and comfortable but still dress nice and try hard for my husband....
This one is gonna be more complicated than other problems I have had. How can I be relaxed but still stay dressed nice....
Maybe I can dress nice when we go out and about but stay in these amazing shorts at home....
I'm not quite sure...
It doesn't help my husband isn't the dressy guy that I use to be with... So when he is in a tshirt and shorts I feel like I dont have to try..
But the thing is he has always been like this....And I haven't...
I love him for him and I know he would love me no matter what. But I should keep trying even after we got married.
I hear this happens alot. Once people get married they quite trying. I think I have been worried about it and thinking about him doing it so much that I haven't been watching me....
So to all the fellow newlyweds or engaged couples out there: Even after your married remember that you have to fight to stay in love.... And you should fight to be the best you can because you thought your spouse was worth it before! So don't forget to be the best you you can while still being yourself! Its all about finding the happy medium!!!